Simple actions often speak the loudest. Yet sometimes it seems so difficult when the mind is busy with worry.
Wake up, get ready and go to work or school, get home depleted and sink into comfortable routines of relaxation, go to bed and repeat. That's the typical day for so many people. As each day blends into another, it can feel nearly impossible to find moments to give (whether the giving is time or anything else).
The Gift Of Giving
There's a cycle of giving-receiving that takes very little effort and can usually fit into any busy day. While you might expect something like 'give a compliment' or 'give a smile' (which are good ideas), I'm talking about something even simpler than that. Giving to other people can be wrought with social implications and considerations; a 'simple' smile isn't as simple as it sounds (especially if you're an introvert or have social anxiety).
The easiest giving starts with you. That's right; give to yourself. Just one thing, every day. Give yourself a smile, or a compliment (looking good there in the mirror!). After awhile, that may very well be enough to get the cycle started.
If that's not enough (or if it's still too much in some ways), then start giving to nature. This might be a bit tricky in some areas, but creating a compost area (bokashi is a good indoor option), makes the most of trash while adding to the giving cycle. Don't like composting? Bird or squirrel feeders are a kind of giving as well. Still too much effort? Take a moment every day and give love and thanks to a plant outside. Just a moment of attention, focused on giving.
The Energy In Receiving
As you give, you will receive back more than you gave (in many, but not all cases). Fertilizing an area will net bigger blossoms, feeding local wildlife provides a storybook experience in your yard, and giving your attention to a plant brings a greater appreciation of its otherwise unnoticeable changes. As you receive, a feeling of gratitude and satisfaction builds up and naturally motivates more giving.
Don't bother trying to force the cycle, it will happen in its own time. Each person has their own capacity for gratitude before it overflows, and no one's is infinite. Stick with whatever is easiest to fit into your schedule, and continue that one thing until you begin receiving. It will come (it's much more likely using nature or yourself to notice the return, which is why I don't start with people), but you may need to meditate on being open to receive.
Some sources suggest meditating on gratitude. That's one way to get there, but it might seem a little like forcing yourself to believe something before it happens. If you're starting at the beginning (as in, you've never experienced the cycle of giving and receiving consciously), it may be better to meditate on each day's moment of giving.
As you contemplate that moment down to every tiny detail, you can analyze the experiences from every angle. Did it feel good? Did it feel bad? What was your motivation? Were you tired? Were you well-rested? Ask yourself how you could give better: if the task seems difficult, and you're always refilling the bird feeders at night, maybe try waking up a few minutes earlier.
If the giving doesn't feel good to you, then the gift isn't as good as it could be.
Only the giving that feels good will net a return. So meditate on what one tiny gift you would enjoy giving every day, and see what happens!
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