First I want to talk to the people going to bed alone, hoping for a sign that it's a temporary condition. Having a soulmate out there doesn't mean the Universe will deliver them to your door. Pardon the harsh reality, but there's plenty of wishful thinkers living in near hermitage that truly believe someone will miraculously happen along their path. The truth is, you have to be somewhere out in the world for that to happen. It won't happen from the comfort of your home.
Unless, of course, you count the internet. In my opinion, that's still a massive roadblock for the powers that be, but it could still happen. I suppose.
OK, So Are They Even Out There?
In other words, is it worth the effort? It depends on how you define a soulmate. If you are referring to that special someone your soul was crafted specifically for AND leads to a happily ever after when you finally meet...no. No, that doesn't exist. EVERY relationship takes work, no matter how cosmically destined they may be.
And also, it's highly unlikely there's only one. The 'other half to the whole' thing is a specific type of soulmates. That concept is actually coined as "twin flames," and is extremely rare. Don't worry, though, you're not missing out on any euphoria you couldn't achieve with a regular soulmate - after all, even the average soulmate is (by definition) a mate to your soul.
How Do You Know They Exist?
There's two distinct types of soulmates (not including twin flames). One type is the kind your soul connects with for a period of time to trigger your spiritual growth. The other is the kind you create through habitual reinforcement of love, respect and communication.
The second kind is pretty easy to obtain, all things considered. Find someone (even if just a friend) and cultivate an interdependent relationship with them. It may not become romantic, but it will tickle your soul in a similar way. For an overall understanding of this method, check out Psychology Today's article on soulmates here.
If you're looking for the other kind - the more 'predestined' kind of relationship, then you're in for a ride. Because you've got to shed the idea that a soulmate is another word for your ideal lover. They aren't. They're more like... an exercise bike with a donut dangling in front. It sounds easy and wonderful (and there is quite a bit of truth to that), but those relationships are designed to develop your soul. No pain, no gain, right?
Remember this: a soulmate doesn't have to be a lover. It could be a friend, a coworker, or even relative. The point of a soulmate isn't just to give you companionship (although in most cases it will do just that to some degree), but to shape your soul through experience.
If you suspect you may be one of the rare few to have a twin flame, check out this article.
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