What if you like him/her, but that deeply spiritual spark doesn't seem to be there at all? You enjoy being with them, you're mutually attracted and interested, yet there's nothing metaphysical about it. It's just... ordinary.
No meaningful relationship is truly ordinary, as everyone is unique in their own right. And every relationship can be meaningful, no spooky connection required. There's a strange sort of allure to the typical, ordinary love built from the very beginning on up.
I've encountered many soulmates in my lifetime, and I'll be the first to admit I'm a little envious of those ordinary relationships. I've never really experienced them, as many find my brand of "crazy" to be an acquired taste. I assume this life just wasn't meant for beginnings in that sense for me.
But all soulmates had a beginning somewhere. I personally don't believe there are soulmates without a history of some kind. That doesn't seem possible. If two souls are entwined, they had to be completely separate at some point and then become entwined, right? So the connections those soulmates have now were once relationships without the spiritual substance of "soul-mates."
Building Future Connections
Because you're starting from scratch in building the relationship, all the obstacles you encounter are less complex (maybe not easier, though). There's no previous lifetime(s) or predestined struggles to overcome. They're just..normal stuff.
As a bonus, the more work you put into building that "normal" connection, the greater the result. That means the potential benefits of the relationship end-game are the same as those with spiritual connection. So you're not missing out on the heights of companionship at all.
The only difference I can see is the spiritual bond, which is a unique feeling of inter-connectedness that eludes explanation. However, once again, a similar feeling can be attained through meditation and oneness. It's not exactly the same, but for those of us that have experienced both there's only a slight difference anyway; and if you are building those deep, meaningful connections now then you're developing soulmates for the future.
As always, the big exception is twin flames. They are not created the same way, being literally a soul divided by something. Being a part of a matched twin flame set, I would highly recommend not attempting to create such a connection. It's like precious gems - formed naturally, they are very different from those formed consciously by man.
If you suspect you may be one of the rare few to have a twin flame, check out this article.
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