A common belief is that when you meet "the one," it will be love at first sight. But is that really the case?
An article by Psychology Today suggests the feeling is definitely real, but may not mean what you'd hope. There is definitely a chemical feeling like love that can happen when meeting someone, but not only is it more likely an extreme attraction to "beauty," it also rarely happens mutually. So what gives?
The Soulmate Connection
Soulmates can have a similar feeling, and it may be the exact same thing, but it isn't always. Sometimes it's more of an extreme interest in learning more about a person, and often there's no great fireworks at all. Love at first sight alone isn't a good indicator at all.
Don't despair, though, because there's still some hope yet.
When you first meet a soulmate, there is an undeniable spark. It may not be very intense, though, as the 'love at first sight' feeling tends to be. If you're feeling the butterflies for someone and aren't sure whether it's simple attraction or spiritual connection, the best test is to give it time.
Nobody Wants To Wait!
And soulmates are notorious at moving too quickly, so the test may seem impossible. Yet, giving it time isn't about slowing down but rather withholding judgment. You're trying to determine if this is a soulmate, right? Go through the stages at whatever pace is comfortable for you (and your partner), but wait out deciding what to believe until enough time has passed to know for sure.
How much time, you ask? As much time as it takes, and there's no hard rule for everyone. I can say the experts have studied the honeymoon effect at great length, and discovered 30 months is about the max. That's 2.5 years of wait-and-see.
While it might seem like forever to wait that long, consider how long 'till death do we part'is going to feel. Besides, it's entirely possible to have the first 2.5 years of infatuation, then get married and have another period of time where a similar feeling occurs. But that's only if there's real love to rekindle in the first place.
Psychology Today featured another article which referenced a study on relationships that supports this tactic. Waiting three or more years to get married decreases the chances of divorce by about 50% compared to those that marry within a year!
Give you and your partner the time to see if you are compatible for the long haul, soulmates or not. And this goes doubly true for twin flames, as they tend to have extraordinary barriers that can take many years to overcome - if they ever do.
If you suspect you may be one of the rare few to have a twin flame, check out this article.
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